Unhelpful Patterns of Thinking

Positive thinking is important for success in all areas.  Avoid these negative patterns of thinking to avoid falling into a downward spiral of negativity. 

All or Nothing Thinking: Black/White thinking. If I don’t do this right, I’m a failure. 

Overgeneralization: Seeing a pattern based on a single event. Being overly broad. “I never win” “Nothing Good Ever Happens to Me”

Jumping to Conclusions: 2 things: thinking you know what others are thinking or thinking you can predict the future

Mental Filter: noticing our failures but not seeing our successes

Disqualifying the Positive: Discounting the good things that have happened or that you’ve done – thinking it doesn’t count

Emotional Reasoning: Assuming because we FEEL a certain way, what we think must be true. “I feel embarrassed so I must be an idiot.”

Catastrophizing or Minimizing: Blowing things out of proportion or making them seem less important. 

Should Statements: Using words like “should/must/ought” which make us feel guilty or like we’ve failed.